I Have a Degree in Being Self Employed (4-Year Biz Anniversary)

When I took my first job out of college I never thought I’d be self employed before I turned fifty.

At this so-called “integrated communications” agency, I was put on 3 client accounts and 1 internal project. As my “senior” (I’m an arrogant snob, get ready) account colleagues walked me through the grunt work I’d take off their plates, they all said the same thing at the end of their “training”:

“So you’ll do this for about a year . . .”

A YEAR?!

I of course didn’t say this out loud. But this is what I screamed in my head and from my gut in about .07 seconds:

I didn’t go to college, study comms in a consistently ranked top-5 program, be the comms VP of a 60-person team with a 5-figure annual budget, intern with the university’s spokesman for a year on getting coverage in top trade publications and national outlets … to land HERE doing something I, on my now FIRST day, could train a high schooler from down the street to do in 15 minutes!! You’re gonna PAY me to do that?

OH … AND … we’re gonna BILL our clients, HOW MUCH, for me to do THAT? And you want ME, with all my skills, to be THE ONE doing it … for a YEAR?!!!

You. Gotta. Be. Kidding.

Someone pinch me. Plzzzz.

This can’t be happening.

It was so so so hard to humbly listen to anything my new colleagues said.

As I saw it then, who cares if they had been at the company for a year, or two? None of them studied comms in college, let alone a top-ranked program. None of them had jobs or legit experience in comms before starting, which I did. And ANYONE who thought it worthwhile to spend a year doing this mindless crap must not have two cells between their ears to rub together and therefore isn’t intelligent enough for my attention.

WOW.

Yeah I just wrote all that. That was 6 years ago and the visceral-ness is still there. I warned you … my intellectual arrogance and snobbery game were strong.

In fact, I’m certain I came across this very ecard or something close to it, printed it off, and taped it on the wall behind my desk.

Snarkiness of the Self Employed

Within a few days, it mysteriously disappeared.

If you hang this at your desk at your corporate gig . . . my money is that you’re destined to join the mighty ranks of the self employed just like me.

I bring all this up to point out WHAT I REALIZED from my then “for a year at a time”-oriented colleagues:

I was used to living life by semesters . . . ie, in 4-month cycles. And I had NO plans to change that.

In 4-month cycles, I learned:

  • a good chunk of Newtonian physics
  • partial differential calculus
  • to name every bone, bone segment, organ, muscle, muscle segment etc. in the body
  • the chemistry of how DNA replicates and the physical science of exactly why DNA is an oblong double helix
  • how to plan, draft and launch PR campaigns
  • the major points of a dozen political philosophers
  • to identify dozens of works of art, literature, opera
  • that Mary Shelley’s Frankenstein is nothing like what we’ve turned it into
  • you know … every class I took in college

I LOVE learning. Have always sought out and taken the fast track.

AND NOW . . .

A YEAR to do what I’ve conceptually mastered in the 15 minutes you took to explain it to me?

I had NO idea what I was getting into, and this was one of my ruder awakenings to #AgencyLife in New York City.

I committed at the moment to NOT let this “adult” “grownup” view of living by years take over my pattern of mastery/growth/rebirth in semesters or 4-month cycles.

NO WAY was I going to slow down my life just because people around me start talking in terms of years.

No. Way.

# # #

One year later, the writing on the wall was strong.

And a year after that, I was let go.

On July 17, 2012 I was what I call “friendly fired”: given 30-days’ notice.

I first talked publicly about getting fired on The Brave Entrepreneur (ep. 18), and my Quora answer on how I emotionally/mentally/physically dealt with getting fired has been viewed nearly 18,000 times.

# # #

There’s a corollary to the 4-month semester cycle, and it lasts around 4 years, or sometimes as little as 2.

These are like degrees:

Middle school + junior high

High school

College

etc.

So this month, September 2016, when I crossed 4-years being self employed . . .

And Linkedin reminded everyone of that . . .

And I got dozens of ‘likes’ and canned notes . . .

(which I sincerely appreciate, btw, and consider this post, my friends, my return note to all of you) . . .

I had a moment:

I’ve employed myself FT twice as long as my agency tenure (two years) and for as long as I was in college.

I therefore have “a degree” in being self employed.

I have a degree in providing for myself, as my own boss.

I have a degree in how to make and earn money without an employer.

I don’t have a masters of business administration, but I DO have rudimentary mastery (at least) of ALL aspects of administering a business:

  • I do my own bookkeeping
  • I write and review my own contracts
  • I set my own strategy
  • I do my own business development
  • I close the deals
  • I collect payments
  • I send the invoices
  • I do the work
  • I run quality control
  • I’m my own “account manager” “customer success manager” “client happiness specialist” and so on
  • I’m my own HR department
  • I’ve hired/released/completed/fired 20+ contractors
  • I’m my own marketing department
  • I’ve closed deals and finished projects for 50+ businesses

Anyone who is an entrepreneur/business owner knows what I’m talking about.

The ‘being self employed’ ride has been INSANE but I’m grateful to have put myself through an incredible learning experience, in which I’ve laid a foundation for a life I am excited to live at this very moment and am eager to continue building upon.

Here’s a recap of my entrepreneur coursework that led to my Self Employed Degree:

For simplicity and to make general themes more obvious, I limited myself to three “classes” per semester when really, as in college, it was more like 6-7 at a time.

Undergrad

Freshman Year

Fall 2012 (Sep-Dec)

Reality Check 100: Oh crap, am I really doing this?

Desperation 101: Consult for free

Desperation 102: Also interview for FT jobs in a lateral industry

Winter 2013 (Jan-Apr)

Client Satisfaction 101: my first legit client (CMC)

Networking 101: night events, shows, conferences, masterminds, etc.

Business Admin 100: bank account, domain, invoices, contracts, etc.

Summer 2013 (May-Aug)

Experiments in Marketing 210: “I Do Gamification”

Business Expansion 150: Second client, yay! Third client, yay! Fourth client, yay!

Skill Development 180: Email + CRM with Mailchimp, Infusionsoft

Sophomore Year

Fall 2013 (Sep-Dec)

Investment 201: sponsor a conference

Investment 202: business coach

Struggle 101: second-guess my selection for a business coach

Winter 2014 (Jan-Apr)

Mega Excitement 240: biggest client renews with massive budget expansion!

Scaling 210: subcontractors, subcontractors, subcontractors

Shiny Objects 100: bunch of random side projects I feel I can do because of all this main-gig income sustaining me

Life context: sleep and energy management at all-time low, begin Ironman training

Summer 2014 (May-Aug)

Life context: Ironman training in full swing

Skill Development 225: managing website projects

Struggle 300: what did I get myself into with all these subcontractors?

Struggle 480: biggest client pulls the project plug early

Junior Year

Fall 2014 (Sep-Dec)

Life context: I’m an Ironman

Consequences 300: planned income for rest of year is gone

Business Reflections 312: I didn’t start a business to spend all my time managing subcontractors . . . and, somehow, I want to bring triathlon in business

Experimentation 206: build and launch an online course (initial success promptly fizzles)

Winter 2015 (Jan-Apr)

Life context: live the winter in LA, decide to move out of NYC

Rebirth 285: marketing advisor (help a lot of business owners a little bit, do no implementation) + endurance coach

Launch 286: group program where I advise small biz owners on marketing AND coach them in endurance training

Skill Development 325: coaching, teaching, lesson plans

Summer 2015 (May-Aug)

Life context: pack up and leave NYC

Business Reflections 412: the people I count as the greatest successes, in business and sports, pick something and embrace the routine grind . . . repetition, repetition, repetition

Business Reflections 413: my business lifestyle (lots of ups and down, lots of travel) doesn’t align with life priorities, and there’s little room for repetition, meaningful practice and mastering a craft

Business Reflections 485: survey course, hmmmmmmmmmmmm

Senior Year

Fall 2015 (Sep-Dec)

Life context: temporarily, under-the-radar move to Utah

Drastic Measures 420: cut ties, fire clients, don’t renew my group coaching program

Embracing Your Craft 421: work as deeply as possible (on marketing) with as few clients as possible

Business Reflections 460: if “being a great marketer” is more important than being an entrepreneur, maybe a full-time role is a good idea? Open the door to FT job search

Winter 2016 (Jan-Apr)

Life context: move permanently to Utah … buy a car, get my license, etc.

Job Search 300: say no at the 1-inch line for a role when asked to negotiate one of my from-the-outset non-negotiables; from another, get a “want you on the team, but can’t bring you on until maybe around end of the year . . .”

Skill Development 410: build my first website from scratch, in Squarespace

Struggle 210: I’ve been entertaining FT work options, it hasn’t panned out, now I need more clients . . .

Summer 2016 (May-Aug)

Business Revelations 482: Holy smokes, I can make websites on my own without a developer or designer

Rebirth 386: Full-Stack Marketer . . . strategy + traffic + content + website + CRM + automation

Business Expansions 402: website project, website project, website project, more websites than I can deliver on deadline, begin time tracking and creating administrative controls and processes

And now on to . . .

Grad School

1st year

Fall 2016 (Sep-Dec)

Business Admin 505: tracking time, cash-flow control systems, time and resource allocation

Elevation 512: rate hikes, packaged services with (smartly priced, profitable) fixed project fees

Demand Generation 560: systematically booking work 6+ months ahead of time

The rest? Stay tuned.

By |2021-01-15T15:37:23-07:00September 16th, 2016|General Life, Marketing|0 Comments

Why I Moved to Utah: Hiking Brighton with REI Outdoor School

As we say … #UtahIsRad … that’s why I moved to Utah. I took these photos during a hike-and-photo class by REI Outdoor School at Brighton, the ski resort at the top of Big Cottonwood Canyon in Salt Lake City, Utah.

One of the reasons why I moved to Utah is the mountain are RIGHT HERE.

I run plenty on the road, which I can do anywhere.

But from my new place, I’m 15 minutes (maybe 20) from Parley’s, Millcreek, Big Cottonwood and Little Cottonwood canyons.

Each canyon has dozens of trails. Acres of territory. Streams a plenty. And peaks, peaks, peaks to summit.

Why I Moved to Utah: Video Recap

Ski lifts, messing with perspective, running water, flowers, a mountain lake and friendly chipmunks.

If video doesn’t load below, click here.

 Class Highlights

Perspective. Rule of thirds. Composing around a primary object. Lines. Contrast. Color. Get low, shoot hi. Vertical panos. Tell a story. Lighting. Focus.

These are a few of the things I remember.

I shot all these photos and the video with my iPhone 5s using the native camera app and stock lens.

Had a great time with the small crew of six or so in this class. Many thanks to REI. I was with them on Black Friday to #OptOutside and I’m with them now on #UnitedOutside.

A few weeks after class, I went to our hiking route. This time I continued past Lake Mary to see her other two sisters, Lake Martha and Lake Catherine. And then all the way up to Sunset Peak.

I shared three separate images from the peak, but here’s the money shot just for you blog readers (click to view full size):

Why I Moved to Utah - Sunset Peak

Ok ok. So BACK to the original Brighton trip …

REI Outdoor School: Photo Class and Hike

My collection …

Why I Moved to Utah

Why I Moved to Utah - Flowers on Evergreen

Why I Moved to Utah - Ski Lift

why-i-moved-to-utah-shoes-on-grass

Why I Moved to Utah - A Tall Pano

Why I Moved to Utah - Up the Trail

Why I Moved to Utah - Rising Ski Lift

Why I Moved to Utah - Two Chairs

Why I Moved to Utah - Yellow Flowers

Why I Moved to Utah - The Path Up

Why I Moved to Utah - Lines

Why I Moved to Utah - Grass Textures

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Why I Moved to Utah - Chairs Sky Sun

Why I Moved to Utah - Look Up

Why I Moved to Utah - On We Go

Why I Moved to Utah - Rocks

Why I Moved to Utah - Tags

Why I Moved to Utah - Everyone

Why I Moved to Utah - Treescape

Why I Moved to Utah - An Old Tree Stands

Why I Moved to Utah - Destinations

Why I Moved to Utah - Trees

Why I Moved to Utah - More Yellow Flowers

Why I Moved to Utah - Rock Face

Why I Moved to Utah - Lake Mary T

Why I Moved to Utah - Lake Mary

I don’t play Pokemon. But the way this rock split looks like a poke ball.

Why I Moved to Utah - Looks a little like a poke ball

Why I Moved to Utah - tree tops and tips

Why I Moved to Utah - Flower on Rocks on Trees

By |2021-01-15T15:37:23-07:00August 18th, 2016|General Life|0 Comments

Vote 3rd Party in 2016: I’m In

In.

#YouIn‎?

In 2016 I’ll vote 3rd party: Gary Johnson and Bill Weld.

If the video doesn’t load, view it here.

 

I keep my political posts super spare. I hate the horserace.

I allow myself one post per 6 months. This is my one political post for the 6-month period ending May 2016 … so I get one more before the election.

Hillary and Bill are Frank and Claire Underwood incarnate … sketchy use of private email systems for govt use … uranium deals with Russians and unbooked donations … unclear personal loyalty to each other & their marriage … I don’t need details. That’s enough.

And Donald … well … I loved The Apprentice (but now Marcus Lemonis on The Profit is 10,000x) and I think he is playing us all very smartly at a game he wants to win and is willing to win at all costs (including all moral costs), but I say the shrewd business sense he does have is better suited to the private world of real estate ventures where the stakes are his own (or his private investors’) and not the public trust. I wouldn’t mind having him negotiate on our behalf in some matters, but I haven’t seen him model the temperament to lead a massive staff of people who must all get along in order for any good to get done.

So yeah, vote 3rd party for two successful former governors … all the way to The White House.

Vote 3rd Party - Johnson and Weld

Btw, as much as I’d love for Mitt to be our Chief Executive, he just hasn’t been “politician enough” to earn the mass likability that appears necessary to win a national presidential election … and at this point I don’t want him to be. His morality is one of his best continuing contributions.

By |2021-01-15T15:37:23-07:00July 1st, 2016|General Life|0 Comments

DCI Recap: The Battalion and Madison Scouts Exhibition (Sanpete Beat)

On June 21, 2016 I attended Sanpete Beat, an exhibition of The Battalion and Madison Scouts in Mt. Pleasant, UT. The Scouts were formed in 1938, and 2016 is The Battalion’s inaugural year.

The summer after I graduated high school I went on national tour with a military-style, all-brass-and-percussion music group.

For the uninitiated, this is called “drum corps” and the competition league is Drum Corps International or DCI. Yes … it’s like a competitive marching band without a school affiliation and caters to 14-21 year olds who, like me at that age, couldn’t get enough from my high school’s program. You live on a tour bus, practice/perform/compete 12+ hours a day and get maybe a few hours of sleep on a school gym floor after arriving there around 2 or 3 a.m. No joke. (Did I mention 21 is the age limit?)

Anyway … a decade later … the guy (James Sparling) who first really showed me how to ram notes on quads is now the percussion director of the Madison Scouts, the second oldest drum corps around.

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James was on leave getting R&R with family (dude — next time skip a flat state like Kansas; #Utahisrad don’t miss it), so he’s not in the pictures, but here are the guys he writes music for and directs all summer long. (Yup, guys. Madison is by tradition an all-male corps).

The Battalion and Madison Scouts Exhibition - June 21, 2016 - Madison Scouts Drumline In The Lot

 

And later … The Integrated Arc!

When James first showed up at Sycamore High School, he shook up the drumline a lot and taught me about training my ears to listen. We’d warmup in traditional setups like the one above and also in other formats like this where the tenors and snares intersperse with each other:

The Battalion and Madison Scouts Exhibition - June 21, 2016 - Madison Scouts Drumline In The Lot - Integrated Arc

 

Madison Scouts Drumline :: In The Lot :: Video

If the videos don’t show, hit refresh or watch all three here.

 

And here’s the Madison Scouts Drumline working their opener in uniform (again, backup link):

… yeah, there’s dirt in here. It’s early season. And as James was fond of saying teaching yelling back in the day:

“CLEAN YOUR OWN HOUSE.”

 

For 2016, Madison’s show is Judas and showcases music from Andrew Lloyd Weber’s Broadway hit, Jesus Christ Superstar.

The Scouts did their first full, in-uniform run of their 2016 show at this exhibition on the North Sanpete High School football field. Which btw was PACKED! S-R-O in the stands.

 

HQ Audio of The Madison Scouts 2016 :: Drumline In The Lot & Full Corps On The Field

Click to listen to all these files on Dropbox

  • Madison Scouts 2016 Show – Judas
  • Madison Scouts – Encore (four)
  • Madison Scouts Drumline In The Lot – Accent Tap
  • Madison Scouts Drumline In The Lot – Book Clip (six)
  • Madison Scouts Drumline In The Lot – Eights
  • Madison Scouts Drumline In The Lot – Flams
  • Madison Scouts Drumline In The Lot – Stick Control
  • Madison Scouts Drumline In The Lot – Triplet Diddle
  • Madison Scouts Drumline In The Lot – Triplet Partials
  • Madison Scouts Drumline In The Lot – Untitled Ditty
  • Madison Scouts Drumline In The Lot – Untitled Warmup
  • Madison Scouts Drumline In The Lot – Snares – Triplet Roll
  • Madison Scouts Drumline In The Lot – Tenors – Untitled

The mountains made for a good backdrop:

The Battalion and Madison Scouts Exhibition - June 21, 2016 - Madison Scouts on the field

 

The Battalion

The Battalion is the first drum corps ever to come out of Utah.

Just to see this piece of music and state history was worth the 90-minute drive each way.

The Battalion and Madison Scouts Exhibition - June 21, 2016 - The Battalion on the field

Mad props to the trio that envisioned The Battalion and are making it happen: Luke and Alyssa McCollum and Dallin Hatch. When I marched inside quad on the BYU Drumline in 2004 the fall after my DCI tour, Luke was at my right and Dallin was a few spots over on snare.

Getting The Battalion together and onto the field for their first exhibition was two years of hustling and rallying a crap ton of people and resources. Running an existing corps is a huge undertaking. And they are tasked with starting one AND running it. I’m so proud of them and all their staff/volunteers/board/backers/etc. for creating musical opportunities for the 100+ youth in their corps.

 

HQ Audio of The Battalion 2016 :: Full Corps On The Field

Click to listen to these files on Dropbox

  • The Battalion 2016 Show – Standing Runthrough (Partial)
  • The Battalion 2016 Show – Moving Runthrough (Complete)

 


 

Live Drum Corps is a Singular Experience

There is nothing like sitting on the 50 yard line in front of a full field of brass and drums.

Booming and bellowing waves rattle every bone in your body.

The soprano trumpets scream on pitch, and every hair on the back of your neck tingles.

When the contra tubas blast, your lung chambers echo.

If you monitored your heart, you’d find it beating in sync with the drums … whatever the tempo.

And goosebumps … the goosebumps!!

Call me a band geek for life.

I don’t care!

It’s worth it if only to keep feeling that sound.

 


 

Btw, Utah’s only DCI show is in Ogden on Thursday, July 7. Visit www.dci.org to find shows near you.

The Battalion

The Madison Scouts

The Battalion and Madison Scouts Exhibition - June 21, 2016 - The Battalion on the field

The Battalion and Madison Scouts Exhibition - June 21, 2016 - The Battalion on the field

The Battalion and Madison Scouts Exhibition - June 21, 2016 - The Battalion on the field

The Battalion and Madison Scouts Exhibition - June 21, 2016 - The Battalion on the field

The Battalion and Madison Scouts Exhibition - June 21, 2016 - The Battalion on the field

The Battalion and Madison Scouts Exhibition - June 21, 2016 - The Battalion on the field

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The Battalion and Madison Scouts Exhibition - June 21, 2016 - The Battalion on the field

 

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By |2021-01-15T15:37:23-07:00June 28th, 2016|Music|0 Comments

Utah Valley Marathon: Race Report 2016

Ran the Utah Valley Marathon on June 11, 2016.

My Utah Valley Marathon data on TrainingPeaks.

Finished 12 minutes slower than my last race.

//// What happened? ////

I popped a caffeine pill before the gun and that single action derailed my day and 3 months of training. Miles 1-12 were solid, and then the effects of dehydration set in.

Basic wisdom: “No new nutrition tricks on race day.”

I’ve never taken caffeine pills in my life.

In that moment of being speed greedy, I didn’t account for needing an extra bottle of water to counteract the drug’s diuretic effect. Now I have a good story to back up the wisdom.

All training and racing is a process … no matter the outcome yesterday, #PoundTheRock continues as I improve my run in pursuit of a sub-3:00 finish and qualifying for the Boston Marathon.

Pre-Race Layout

Hidden: the two caffeine pills in my shorts pocket that derailed my race.

PS One of the greatest little gifts from sponsors are those balls in my shoes. Odor snatchers. Check em out … bit.ly/snkrbls

 

Always good to run with a friend for a bit. Taylor (she’s a singer/songwriter based in LA) and I ran a chunk of the first 5 or 10k together. I took off … and not long after I tanked around mile 14 she flew by and went on for a great finish of 3:28:25, taking 3rd in her division.

 

Dehydration cramps set in well by this point. My constant goal was make it to the next aid station for water and Gatorade.

 

How to deal with cramps … walk (blue dips). Cramp, walk, drink, recover, run, repeat.

 

By mile 23 … still a mess and drinking lots of water to get normal.

Mad props to Vanessa who’s been my sherpa on the past 2 marathons. Nothing like having a 100% reliable friend offering support on race weekends. Thank you Cousin V!!!

 

Despair & Relief

 

Lessons learned. Time to recover and prep for next time. Process Produces Progress.

 

Like I say … #PoundTheRock.

 

Utah Valley Marathon - 2016 Race Report - Finisher Certificate

Utah Valley Marathon 2016 Race Results: bit.ly/uvm16nat

 

Utah Valley Marathon - 2016 Race Report - Strava Splits 1 Utah Valley Marathon - 2016 Race Report - Strava Splits 2

 


 

Utah Valley Marathon 2016 by the Numbers

Miles: 26.2

Elevation Gain: 1,111′ <–WUT. I THAWT IT WAS ALL DOWNHILL

Elevation Drop: 2,817′

Calorie Burn: 3,700 (est.)

Final Time: 3:40:52

20th in Division

195th of 955 Overall

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[Data] My Utah Valley Marathon Data on TrainingPeaks: tpks.ws/hebUE

[Data] My Utah Valley Marathon Data on Strava: bit.ly/uvm16

[Data] My Utah Valley Marathon Race Results: bit.ly/uvm16nat

 


 

#TeamTriggerPoint // Grateful to represent TriggerPoint, for their support and the camaraderie of my team, and especially for TP’s products. From rolling with their gear (and eating and resting right), I could walk fine that night, went for a hike the next morning, and feel great.

Ran on Newton Running Distance Vs which took something to get used to, but which I now very much like; with Sof Sole inserts that are a super step up from the stock inserts, and the most comfortable socks I’ve ever put on from Balega.

Not shown, but I plan and analyze everything primarily with TrainingPeaks. Big fan of the platform, appreciate their continuous improvement of it. It’s what I have all my clients use #ResultsStartHere

AND … super awesome props to Utah Valley Marathon crew for working out a deal with the race photographer to provide digital downloads for FREE. Many thanks.

I originally posted this on Facebook.

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By |2021-01-15T15:37:23-07:00June 17th, 2016|Triathlon|0 Comments

Fear of Yours Not Welcome in My Corner

Had a recent insight on fear.

I coached Damian Reid in 2015 to his first half marathon in 6 years and am coaching him in 2016 for his first marathon ever.

He shopped the marathon circuit, showed me a few options, I made recommendations, and he landed on Cape Town, South Africa (Sept 2016).

A few days later…

Screenshot 2016-06-12 19.58.25

I get cold feet about all kinds of things in life.

But the worst kind of cold feet I can get is other people’s cold-feet fear.

<<Damian gave me full permission to share these details. Thanks, brah.>>

I believe Damian was initially acting responsibly and giving this gentleman the benefit of the doubt.

He’s from Africa … specifically Botswana which looks to have more adjacent border mileage with South Africa than any other country.

He’s run three marathons … that’s 3 more than Damian and most people you meet.

He’s the champion of a squash club in a major metropolitan area … obviously still a committed and accomplished athlete.

Unless Damian really wanted to pull out his phone to check the course elevation during this quick, post-match conversation, I’m sure the thing for him to do was nod and say, “Thank you, I’ll take that in consideration and speak with my coach.”

I’m glad he did basically that.

Damian recapped the info. He suggested we may go to Plan B. He trusted me. By so doing, Damian put his faith in himself and in me as his coach ahead of any fear triggered by Mr Botswana. That shows great strength on his part.

People can be totally wrong. And this guy was.

Having an appointed supporter and champion to be there for me in life’s challenges has been a super awesome practice, and once I have those people clear on the roles they embrace for me, then they ARE the person I go to when I hit moments of doubt, darkness, fear or spiraling questions.

When people spew doubts, their fear, and more questions in response to mine, I get more darkness … and now I’m 2x in the dark, or even worse, because I have mine AND theirs. Bad recipe for any situation where I care about moving forward.

Doubters don’t belong in my corner. Who does? People whose faith surpasses fear.

People committed to helping me (and you) through moments of doubt, fear and seemingly unanswered questions are better suited to shine light and direct me to my own light switches so I can see clearly.

As a coach, my athletes count on me to make solid recommendations and not knowingly let them walk into high-failure, low-learning situations. Living + training at sea level, then running a first marathon at elevation counts as one of those. (Post for another time: great coaches do on occasion run their athletes/clients thru inevitable-failure, high-learning situations.)

My athletes, clients, friends and anyone I know, myself included, will experience fear. What I aim to do is support them to recognize their own faith. And, when invited, help them move smartly, faithfully and powerfully toward their faith, even in the face of whatever fear is there.

I felt confident I hadn’t overlooked the geographical challenges of the Cape Town Marathon for Damian, and I thought I’d show him what goes into those evaluations so in the future he can make them on his own.

Here’s what I found:

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I Googled “cape town marathon site:strava.com” and found exactly what I was looking for:

unfounded fears of cape town marathon elevation

(gray, left axis = elevation; blue, right axis = pace of the Strava user who recorded this. Bless the internet and smart phones. And Google. And GPS. And Strava.)

What follows is how my texts went down as I shared this image and more with Damian.

Damian, it’s between 0-200′ above sea level … the whole time!

The entire elevation gain is 721′

The Salt Lake Marathon, while at moderate elevation, has a total gain of 789′

Berlin has 366′

New York City has 454′

Boston has 572′

721′ is nothing crazy

And most importantly … 

In your half marathon you climbed 935′ … you got this 😊

(1,870′ over the course of a full marathon is challenging for a road race and specific training for such is smart)

I imagine will be stunning to run all the way around Table Mountain … without ever going up it (shaded green = mountains):

Fear of Cape Town marathon - route on elevation map

The hardest parts will be miles 16 and 17:

Fear of Cape Town Marathon - the hardest miles

Highest elevation gain in a mile … 145′ … and then the steepest drop in the next mile … 131′ down.

Going up that late in the race will burn your hamstrings …

… and coming down will be an extra load on your quads.

And then you’ll hit mile 18 … that proverbial wall!

Which is also fairly uphill looking at rest of course … 92′ up.

Those 3 miles will be a HUGE mental game and discipline to execute whatever plan we make ahead of time.

So excited for you!!!

Man! Love digging into this race info and thinking about strategy for ya!!!

When you take a look at all this … will you let me know how you feel?

Damian’s a champion. He got it:

Fear of Cape Town Marathon - got it

Back on track. Fear put to rest.

I have no idea how many years ago Squash Club Champion ran his marathons. And I really don’t think he meant ill will. I don’t think he was consciously aware of fear or wanting to incite fear in Damian. I genuinely think he thought he was being helpful … most people do when they give advice … and, to the extent that now Damian and I have thoroughly looked at the elevation profile of Cape Town 2016, he was helpful.

Perhaps it was an innocent slip of memory. Perhaps one of the three marathons he ran is somewhere else in South Africa or around Cape Town and is at elevation. Or maybe years ago the same Cape Town marathon Damian selected had a route at elevation.

Whatever the case, none of that matters because the only relevant items are the facts about Damian’s race and Damian’s preparation for those realities.

So it is in all aspects of life.

I experience so much “advice,” even when given with the best intentions, that, when unrobed from the cloaks of “wisdom” and “concern” for my well-being, amounts to a presentation or attempted transfer of the giver’s unresolved fear and insecurities. And guess what? Their fear and insecurities are theirs. Not mine. And 99% of the time the fear isn’t grounded in reality.

So …

Thanks. But if I see or smell fear, I’ll hand your a ticket for a seat in the stands.

When I’m in the ring — and when, ever, are any of us not? — ya gotta have faith for a spot in my corner.


RIP Muhammad Ali

January 17, 1942 – June 3, 2016

A man who lived word and deed entirely in faith ahead of fear.

Fear of Cape Town Marathon - Muhammad Ali

By |2021-01-15T15:37:23-07:00June 12th, 2016|General Life, Triathlon|0 Comments

[For Your Reference] Your YSA Ward Is OPTIONAL

This post is for my fellow Latter-day Saints with regard to one particular way that we organize our congregations for worship: the YSA Ward.

In my current YSA ward I’m serving as co-chair of the fellowship committee.

My co-chair and our committee take on the responsibility of supporting everyone who begins attending our ward for roughly their first three months. We ensure they feel welcome. We ensure they connect with resources they need. We ensure the Relief Society and Elders’ Quorum Presidencies are aware of them and arrange visiting- and/or home-teaching assignments. We ensure the executive secretary invites each member to meets a member of the bishopric and establish a relationship there and perhaps receive a calling to serve in the ward. And so on.

Materially, this means every week on Sunday I co-host a Sunday School class for people who are attending our ward for the first time (about 4-8 people every week), and also the ward clerk gives me a report of all the new records we receive that week from Church headquarters … which is usually another 4-8 people who supposedly now live in our boundaries and who haven’t yet shown up on Sunday for us to meet them.

Recently, we got a batch of 40-something names, and it turns out a nearby family ward sent this huge batch of records to us.

Here’s the problem with that: there’s a pervasive belief (at least in U.S. Mormon culture) that if you meet the parameters of a singles ward, then that IS your ward.

Translated: if you are 18-31 years old and not married, then where you “belong” is in the YSA ward in which you live.

But that’s not true.

Let the record show … being in a YSA Ward is OPTIONAL. It’s not the default. It’s a personal choice for any Young Single Adult member of the Church.

I’m writing this post for two reasons:

  1. So I have an easy reference point whenever this comes up in the future.
  2. Almost no one I talk to knows the policy, and I value our pro-agency doctrine. This false belief is a chink against that glorious doctrine of total governance of the self.

The false belief sounds like and looks like this:

  • Leadership (bishopric members, EQPs, RSPs, etc.) expecting that single members of their stake will participate in that ward.
  • Leadership (bishopric members, EQPs, RSPs, etc.) expecting that college students home for the summer will participate in that ward.
  • Leadership (bishopric members, EQPs, RSPs, etc.) expecting that leadership and members of surrounding family/conventional wards will “send” their YSAs to the YSA ward.
  • Bishoprics and/or ward clerks from family/conventional wards mass exporting the records of all their YSAs to a YSA ward.
  • People saying, “Oh you should go to the YSA ward.”
  • People saying anything that implies participating in a YSA ward is preferred, especially before inquiring AT ALL about what a YSA thinks his/her spiritual needs are and whether those are better met in a family/conventional ward or a YSA ward.
  • Any member of a YSA ward lobbying a fully active YSA attending a family/conventional ward to participate in/transfer records to/worship with/accept a calling in the YSA ward.
  • There are countless more ways … leave a comment or email me with your favorite way of seeing people defaulting (or pressuring) to YSA ward participation, and I’ll add it to the list.

WHY is this a problem?

I can think of two reasons:

  1. It’s NOT the design of YSA wards to have ALL “eligible” YSAs in them [fusion_builder_container hundred_percent=”yes” overflow=”visible”][fusion_builder_row][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”][Policy].
  2. It assumes policy of the institution is smarter than agency of the individual [Spiritual].

Let’s tackle policy first.

From Handbook 2 (my emphasis added):

YSA Ward is optional - Handbook 2 cover

16.4 Young Single Adult Wards

Where local circumstances and the number of young single adult members make it desirable, priesthood leaders may recommend the creation of a young single adult ward according to the guidelines in Handbook 1, 9.1.6.

Eligible members may, in consultation with their parents, choose to be members of the young single adult ward or to remain in their conventional ward. The stake president may authorize the young single adult ward to find and fellowship other young single adult members of the stake who are less active. Those who become active may then choose to belong to the young single adult ward or to their conventional ward.

With approval from the stake president, the bishop of a young single adult ward may organize a second Relief Society for young single adult women and a second elders quorum for young single adult men to provide additional opportunities for young single adults to serve and associate with each other.

Membership in a young single adult ward is temporary. Leaders help young single adults prepare to return to a conventional ward when they marry or reach age 31. This transition should provide sufficient time and communication to help the bishop of the conventional ward plan for a calling that helps each transitioning young single adult feel welcome and needed.

May. May. Choose. May. May. May. Temporary.

That seems like A LOT of optionality and ZERO compulsion.

Need I say more?

All that’s needed on my point about policy is this: “Eligible members may, in consultation with their parents, choose to be members of the young single adult ward or to remain in their conventional ward.”

Boom.

It’s up to each person to choose being in the YSA ward. Home base is the family/conventional ward in which they live. That’s “where they belong.” YSA ward participation is totally voluntary. It’s a temporary option for those who choose it.

On the spiritual side…

Not complicated: wards exist to support and strengthen families. A single member of the Latter-day Saint Church is his/her own 1-person family. As the head of his/her own family, a YSA gets to decide what his/her spiritual needs are and choose how they are going to meet those needs.

Shuttling all YSAs into a YSA ward by default is having an institution choose on behalf of the YSA. That’s not the spiritual design of this faith that we have.

So cut it out.

To all my fellow YSAs who are reading this or ever will … the choice is YOURS.

Which means your choice is yours and every other YSA’s choice is THEIRS.

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By |2021-01-15T15:37:23-07:00May 27th, 2016|Faith|0 Comments

Best Morning Routines: How 5 Friends Start Their Days

Is the routine I posted with screenshots of my morning routine app the “Best Morning Routine”?

After my post on my AM/PM routines, bunches of people messaged me:

“I got that morning routine app! I’m doing this!!”

Enthused, I said to myself, “Self! Why not see what they come up with? Maybe their routines will be helpfully ingenious.”

I asked a few friends if they’d be willing to have theirs published in a follow-up post.

They said yes … and here we are.

Their routines don’t disappoint.

Thanks, friends!

(Scroll down to see the best morning routine each of the five have made so far.)

P.S. That post also got the attention of producers at an internet radio station. They invited me in for an interview, and you can now listen the episode online: Start Your Day Strong (12:31).

Back to the question … is my routine the best morning routine? Maybe it is for me, but it’s probably not the best morning routine for you.

The best morning routine is what helps you have your best day, by covering what matters most to you, and that is a set of things you love doing, and that you believe in because you’ve tweaked and tested it yourself.

And now I’m pleased to present …

Routines From Five Super Rad People

hailing from both coasts, the midwest and the mountain west:

Mollie, Nate, Madi, JP and Danny

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Mollie

AM: 46 min // PM: 24 min

New York City
Best Morning Routine - Mollie and Blake
Mollie with her mad genius man and business partner, Blake.
Best Morning Routine - Mollie AM

Pretty simple. Pretty fast.

body = fluids, nutrients and cleaning

mind = meditation

spirit = gratitude

space = bed

What part do I like best?!

She does all that in AIRPLANE mode. NO disruptions! Genius, Mollie. Genius.

Here’s Mollie:

This concept of a morning routine has been evolving for me and has especially shifted now that I’ve taken up 3 new habits:

  1. Vedic meditation
  2. tea (instead of coffee), and
  3. a gratitude list in the AM rather than the PM.

With the Morning Rituals app, I like that it’s dynamic and I was able to update my routine to account for these new habits. And at the exact same time, I’m intent on tweaking until I get to a routine that works effortlessly; one that I know cold that I can do on autopilot.

I’m clear that this level of attention (like the level that this app provides) is the thing that will get me there!

@ Mollie — I’m sure it will!

BONUS: Mollie also shared her evening routine … which ends with putting her phone in Airplane mode (no disruptions while sleeping!). Have a look:

Mollie PM

Thanks again, Mollie!

Mollie runs Lecture Loft, The Nonverbal Group and Beyond Tells out of a sweet loft in the heart of Chelsea in New York City. I’ve hosted consulting workshops and attended parties there. If you need a space for 1-50ish people … or you could use development in your nonverbal communication and poker game … have a look at what she and Blake do.


Nate

AM: 2 hrs 37 min // PM: none

Salt Lake City, Utah
Best Morning Routine - Nate
Nate has interviewed 100+ couples and love experts around the country.
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Best Morning Routine - Nate 2

@ Nate — you da man! But seriously tho, that’s a long poop session … good grief.

Here’s Nate:

As I’ve developed a morning routine, I’ve noticed how much more energy and clarity I have during my day.

  • I wake up every morning and the first thing I do (after going to the bathroom) is exercise. I’m the kind of guy who will make ANY excuse not to work out … so I’ve started sleeping in my workout clothes so I have a total of 0 excuses.
  • After going for a run or doing my morning yoga …
  • I eat some food …
  • Do some breathing …
  • And then I allow myself to write without any constraints in my journal. It’s basically a word-vomit session. I just write whatever I’m thinking and feeling at the moment.
  • Then I give commentary on my thoughts and feelings. There are no rules during this writing session. Nothing is bad, nothing is good … it’s just clearing the clutter.
  • Then I do some reading or make myself some lunch (depending on how I’m doing on time) …
  • And take some time to write something more thoughtful.

I’m not perfect with this routine.

It’s still in development.

And during the days that I follow it, I feel like I am living my life instead of letting my life live me.

Nate is the creator of The Loveumentary, a podcast about healthy, long-lasting and wildly loving relationships, and co-founder of Unbox Love, a monthly date-in-a-box service for couples. His TEDx talk: Fight naked! And other epic love strategies (8:19), brought the house down in September 2015. Nate regularly speaks and hosts seminars to help singles and couples learn and improve the skills that build great relationships. And P.S., if you use Workfront to manage projects, jump into the Workfront Customer Success Portal where Nate is your front-line man.


Madi

AM: no app or timer, she just does // PM: none

Salt Lake City, UT
Best Morning Routine - Madi
Madi took her church’s ladies’ bball team to the city championship.

Madi doesn’t use an app. She’s been doing her thang for years and has her routine down.

That’s especially why I asked Madi to share her routine — to show you can use an app but you don’t need one to have a great morning.

Here’s Madi:

I love morning time. I love that it is a refreshing new start every 24 hours.

I wake up between 6:30-7:00 am most mornings. I love how quiet, cleansed, and still my soul feels.

I used to look at social media to help me wake up but I did away with that because it was a waste of time and never added to my morning experience in a good way.

  • I always try to start my day with a prayer. I think about the things I’m grateful for and I think about the things I need to accomplish for the day.
  • Then I hop to my feet and make my bed. I love when things are clean and in place, so I then tidy the rest of my room.
  • I always listen to my scriptures or a talk. Those tend to set the mood for the day. They help me feel happy and hopeful.
  • I love food so I always eat a yummy breakfast. Usually, it’s an egg, toast, and berries or a yogurt, toast, and berries. Food is healing, nourishing, and tastes great.
  • If I’m lucky I get a work out in. I love playing basketball; all that running reduces stress, and I get to be with some of my favorite friends.

All of these things help me have a powerful start to my day.

I feel endowed with a power that is motivating, faithful and happy.  

BOOM.

I love how Madi loves her mornings … didn’t you feel it? She’s smiling. And content. And cheerful. And pleasant. And simple about all this. It’s lovely.

ALSO, I can see that Madi is super clear on why she does each thing she does.

I’m positive that clarity-in-why counts.

I aspire to do my mornings as gracefully as Madi does.

Until then … I’ll lean on the app and it’s OK if you do too.

@ Madi — you’re awesome!

Madi loves basketball and works at Intermountain Health Care. Every Monday, she plans a mean-good activity for everyone at her church to attend for personal and social enrichment.


JP

AM: 2 hrs 19 min // PM: the reverse

Las Vegas (but I’m counting him for the midwest … Cincinnati hometown homeboys what?!)
Best Morning Routine - JP
JP blogs about the LA Kings, travel and Meal Prep Sundays.

JP and I go way back to Sycamore High School, specifically the SHS Marching Band where he was drum major and I was the drumline captain. Good times.

For years, JP’s been inspired by Ben Franklin’s daily outline:

Best Morning Routine - Ben Franklin

Check it out … a full three hour block before starting work!

After my post, JP kicked it up a notch using the app to add a little formality and structure to his routine, a boon considering his travel + startup founder schedule introduces loads of variability into his life.

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I like that he has two reading blocks.

The WSJ gives him access info that stirs and nurtures his business brain.

The second reading block is open to nurture non-business aspects of his brain.

Here’s JP:

It’s been a challenge to maintain any sort of routine given my work starting an airline.

I definitely see the merits and the importance of maintaining any sort of order to help balance out the chaos of entrepreneurship. A good friend from high school, Nat Harward, introduced me to the Morning Routine app, a straightforward tool for timing and managing specific tasks.

My background: I always maintained some sort of informal routine having been inspired by Ben Franklin’s daily outline (see above). It makes sense to maximize production given the limited amount of daylight that was afforded during colonial era. Basically, my routine consisted of waking up, a few light chores, breakfast, fitness and business throughout the day.

While I prided myself in, at least, making a schedule, more often than not leisure crept into my day, which would significantly mitigate productivity.

When I initially deployed the app into my schedule, it was simply to keep track and manage my morning routine. Having been inspired by Nat to read, I built that in along with Yoga. I’m a huge proponent of Yoga since I’m not 18 anymore and my fitness needs have changed the older I get.

So far my routine consists of:

  • Up – Get out of bed, recognize that it’s a new day
  • WSJ – Read the latest articles
  • Read – Any non-business related reading. Currently book written by a local Vegas pastor
  • Make Bed – Still fine tuning this time depending on how stubborn my pup is
  • Yoga – It says 20 minutes but some of the yoga videos I watch on YouTube last up to 30 minutes. This one varies but at least I have it set in the schedule.
  • Active – This could mean walking the dog or going for a run, the time may vary but, again, it’s locked into the schedule.

My night routine is the reverse of this.

Think of it as falling back down into my bed.

The biggest takeaway, for me, is how vital it is to have any sort of routine or set schedule.

More often than not, I had video games or other leisure activities creep into my daily schedule mitigating my overall productivity. In the few stable days I’ve been able to incorporate a routine, I’ve been astronomically productive to the point where I thoroughly enjoyed my downtime in the afternoon leading to the start of my evening routine.

I have plenty of friends who are envious of my zen-like attitude, but it’s not without careful planning. Yoga and being active are definitely main staples of my routine, so at the very least those are non-negotiable.

@ JP — reversing the AM routine as the PM routine is brilliant … falling back down into bed. Great way to think about it! Thanks man, eager to follow the Airline 4.0 story.

JP loves playing ice hockey and rooting for the Bengals and the LA Kings. He faithfully preps a week’s worth of meals on Sundays … except when he’s traveling to build Airline 4.0. Follow his meals and startup progress on Insta.


Danny

AM: 2 hrs // PM: none

Los Angeles
Best Morning Routine - Danny
Long story … but Danny, his lovely wife and I flew a small plane over LA with a former Romanian street car racer as our pilot (that’s the long part of the story). Said he, “99% of airspace is unregulated, so when I got tired of them chasing me in the streets, I took to the air.” True story.

I can’t say enough about Mr. ‘DannyRas.’ I haven’t even read through his routine yet, which I’m about 30 seconds away from pasting into this blog, and I’m giddy to see what he wrote about it.

First up, Danny’s preface:

Ever since I started listening to The Tim Ferriss Show podcast [Nat here, also a fan! I’m not a regular listener but I listen when a title catches my eye … as this one did: The Man Who Studied 1,000 Deaths to Learn How to Live], I’ve been obsessed with morning routines. I’ve tried probably around 20-30 different iterations before finally settling on what I’ve been using of late [[Good on ya! SEE … experiment experiment experiment 🙂 ]]. It’s simple and not particularly flashy, but seeing as I’m really not a morning person at all, I tend to give myself a break.

Danny’s simple, good-enough-for-a-non-morning-person Morning Routine:

Best Morning Routine - Danny 1

Simple indeed.

Here’s Danny (buckle up!):

As a natural night owl, mornings and I have never gotten along.

Mornings don’t like me and I don’t like mornings. If mornings were an animal, they’d be those noisy crickets that sound like they’re right by your ear but you can’t seem to locate the source.

I am not a happy person in the mornings.

In fact, I can be downright angry. Those who know me understand that this is counter to my very nature and disposition at all other hours of the day. I’m a happy guy … after 10AM. Before 10AM, it’s best to stay away. My brain is pretty much useless for a good hour after waking up. Meanwhile, my body is all about retaining its inertia in it’s perfect cocoon. My mind, meanwhile, performs one and only one function at that hour: silence the snooze and justify hitting it just one more time. When it comes to snooze justifications, my brain is straight-up Einsteinian.This is a daily struggle.

As a result, I’ve built my morning routine around three simple concepts:

  1. Activating my body,
  2. Activating my brain and
  3. Feeding my soul.

That’s it.Activate Body: get out of bed, move my body, shower/shave/get dressed, eat breakfast. Activate Brain: listen to podcast or audiobook, eat breakfast, Feed Soul: listen to inspiring audio First thing I do is I physically pry myself away from my covers and into the other room where I, in my catatonic state, attempt to clothe myself in the workout clothes I laid out the night before. This occurs with varying degrees of success. I grab my phone and headphones and turn on some form of inspiring audio, typically a podcast (like Tim Ferriss), an audiobook (currently: The War of Art, by Steven Pressfield [[Nat here … I HIGHLY recommend this book.]) or an inspiring talk (e.g. anything from #ldsconf) and walk out the door. The passive audio consumption begins the brain activation and soul feeding processes.

During my “workout,” I don’t care if I run in record time or leisurely stroll around the neighborhood.

My only goal is to move my body. That’s it. No judgment, no personal records. If I move my body, I succeed. When I get back, I go through the usual shower/shave/get dressed process. Nothing fancy here. If I take a longer shower, it just means I have to get dressed quicker. This is all a continuation of my “activate body” process, but it also helps me take the rest of my morning activities a little more seriously. This is especially important on the days that I’m working from home. Breakfast is either lovingly prepared by my wife or rushingly thrown together by yours truly. The inputs vary with one exception and that is fresh squeezed OJ. One of the perks of living in pricey Orange County is the abundance of cheap, sweet oranges at the local farmers markets. We go through a lot of oranges …

Once my body is awakened, exercised, bathed, clothed and fed, I’m ready to sit down for my communion session.

This is where I come to really feed my soul. I sit down at my desk, say a prayer and make a concerted effort to commune with my Heavenly Father. I just want to talk to him, and try and listen to what He has to tell me. That’s why during my communion session, I tend to focus on reading scripture. That’s where I get a lot of answers. Of all the activities I participate in during my morning routine, I find that this one provides the best ROI for the rest of the day.

After feeding my soul, I review my To-Dos for the day and it’s game on.

Game on!

I’m glad Danny’s ended up being last in order here because I think he’s set up a great pattern that anyone wanting to make or tweak their personal best morning routine can follow.

What parts of myself need waking up or nurturing in the morning?

Danny IDed for himself: body, brain, soul.

When charting your best morning routine, perhaps that’s the best question to start with … it’s not “what ‘should’ I do in the morning?” or “what does everyone else do in the morning that seems trendy and therefore good to do?”

The key questions are something more like, “As I think about what’s most important in life and what I want to accomplish each day, what parts of myself then do I want to take care of? What aspects of myself further my goals, and of those, which need the most support to establish momentum in the morning?”

@ Danny — You’re a rockstar! Way to take your known weaknesses and craft your best morning routine to lovingly work yourself awake each day. Thanks, brah.

Danny is a marketer and responsible for the growth the trampoline park franchise Big Air. He’s also one of the founding contributors of Normons, a blog about how Mormons are actually super normal. He and his wife, Ashley, are working on a forthcoming podcast about shame, conquering it and healing oneself of the impact. I can’t wait. He’s die hard for the Angels, In-n-Out and Twitter. Catch him at @dannyras.


So…..

What do you think? Who’s got the best morning routine?

If you were inspired or got any new ideas on crafting your best morning routine, I’d love to hear about it.

Leave a comment below.

# # #

To the app developers of Morning Routine (formerly Morning Rituals) … the lovely people of Ubicolor:

I got feedback from people that would be better in your hands than mine. Here’s a punchlist of feature requests that came my way:

  • Two modes: morning routine mode and night routine mode
  • Night routine mode: have an alarm that goes off at a set time to support us in starting the routine on time
  • Option for more than 2 modes or routine “lists” … sometimes the Sa/Su routine is different from M-F

Got more feedback? Send it via the comment form at the bottom of Ubicolor’s Press Kit.

To download the app, do that here ($2, no affiliate status; iOS only).

By |2023-11-09T01:11:51-07:00April 28th, 2016|General Life|2 Comments

Redcoats and Running: An Ode to My Grandpa Doug

My grandpa died today.

Grandpa Doug was about 6 weeks shy of his 97th birthday.

Or, he died last night. We’re not sure. Some time in his sleep he said bye to his tired and aged bag of bones and went on to that realm of spirits where now he communes freely with his wife, Nedra, his siblings and other friends and family already there.

Reunited.
Reunited.

My Grandpa Doug grew up in Plymouth, Massachusetts and moved to Los Angeles as a young lad to finish art school.

There he met my grandmother, found work doing industrial art + design, and settled to raise his family within sighting distance of the nightly Disneyland fireworks, where he stayed until today.

There are 2 pictures embedded from Instagram on this post and they often don’t show on the first page load. (Why?!) If you don’t see 3 model cars below, reload/refresh or click here and here to see Grandpa Doug.

 

Grandpa: drove the red one from MA to CA and later his family in the Bel Air.

A photo posted by Nat Harward (@natharward) on

For years, I knew him as an artist.

Doing cool things like …

The Flying White House Letterhead
My Grandpa Doug designed this letterhead for Air Force One … before it was Air Force One.

The Flying White House
Pretty rad family history, huh?

When I was 26 I visited him for a few days.

In that 1:1 time, I discovered my grandpa was more than an artist. He was a writer too.

He wrote regularly for his company’s management journal … editorials on life, leadership, service, being great, being a citizen.

I snapped pictures of a few of them.

And today I’m sharing one of his editorials because he wrote it about today.

Not about his death, but about today

the day the world gathers near his home for the marathon of marathons, The Boston Marathon

the day students across America’s schools read and recite Longfellow’s tale of the midnight ride of Paul Revere

the day that marks the moment when one man, standing among 70-some of his fellow farmers and blacksmith countrymen, stared down 700+ Redcoats between Lexington and Concord and dared to take The Shot Heard ‘Round the World

… the day we call Patriots’ Day

From Grandpa Doug:


Until recent years, April 19th was a holiday in the Commonwealth of Massachusetts — Patriots’ Day, in commemoration of the rag-tag colonial revolutionaries who beat the British Redcoats on the battlefields of Lexington and Concord on that day following the famous midnight ride of Paul Revere.

Today, like many American holidays, Patriots’ Day has become a flexible holiday, a weekend extension, hence this year’s celebration on April 17th. Also, like many America holidays, it is less remembered for its original significance than for a sporting event of national interest. On New Year’s Day, it’s the bowl games, on Memorial Day, the Indianapolis 500, and in Boston on Patriots’ Day, it’s the Marathon.

We remember such a day, more than forty years ago, when we took a twenty-mile round trip bicycle ride to see the Boston Marathon. In those days, everyone was interested in the performance of a past winner, a high school teacher and former heart patient named Clarence DeMar who started running as a young man and continued until his death when was in his seventies. There was always a Johnny Kelly in the race and at least one of them won it two or three times.

Running, it seemed, was a localized craze confined to the Greater Boston area, and anyone could do it — rich, poor, large or small, youngster or senior citizen. One winner, “Tarzan” Brown, a Narraganset Indian, was so poor that his taped shoes hung in shreds on his blistered feet at the end of the 26 miles.

Today, the running craze has spread across the country and to other parts of the world as well. Most people don’t consider themselves athletes, certainly not competitors out to win races. Running is just good healthy exercise and an opportunity to clear the mind, and, especially if you run early in the morning, to prepare yourself both physically and mentally for the rigors of the day ahead.

Only by staying mentally and physically fit can we expect to win any future battles with whatever Redcoats may block the path to freedom.

— Douglas C. Tubbs


Love you, Grandpa.

For my daily list of 10+ new ideas, I dedicated the time to gratitude for you:

  1. Thanks for staying mentally fit.
  2. Thanks for working to be as physically strong as you could through heart troubles and broken hips.
  3. Thanks, more importantly, for having the heart to rally the hearts of all your family … our family … in respect, connection and love.
  4. For framing one of my drawings when I was a kid, I felt so validated.
  5. For your courage to drive across the country and finish art school in LA.
  6. For patiently pursuing greatness in life … in courting Nedra, in your craft of drawing, in writing, and in joining the Church and being a disciple of all good things of Jesus.
  7. For joining the Church and embracing what you could love about what the restored gospel offers.
  8. For holding down the fort in LA so we could visit that great part of the country and have family there to be with (Disneyland!).
  9. For having a cheerful countenance.
  10. For learning to whistle, and doing it shamelessly and gleefully … and sometimes completely unconsciously.
  11. For wanting family to be together, to be friendly, to be on good terms.
  12. For hosting me at your place for a few nights in 2012.
  13. For supporting the family in gathering in big celebrations for your birthday every 5 years from the 80th and on.
  14. For doing all you did to teach and show my mom the ways of language and writing and art.
  15. For enjoying yummy food and wanting us to as well.
  16. For being interested in and asking about my life — my various entrepreneurial ventures, my travels, being a triathlete.
  17. For answering the phone whenever I called.
  18. For loving, really, unconditionally.

See you on the other side 🙂

By |2021-05-06T17:04:08-06:00April 18th, 2016|General Life|1 Comment

Morning + Evening Routines (with screenshots)

Recently on Quora someone asked about AM/PM routines, and in my answer I shared screen shots from my morning routine app to show what I do. Thought I’d republish here with some improvements.

Do you have a morning/night routine? What are they?

I sure do.

At the advice of Noah Kagan I downloaded a morning routine app called Morning Rituals ($2 in the AppStore, no affiliate status).

AM Routine: Screenshots from my Morning Routine App

Here’s my exact routine for the time being. I make adjustments here and there.

I don’t follow it to a T every day. It’s a great guide.

Btw, Morning Rituals released an update this week and the new UI is way cleaner than what you see below. New UI screenshots in my follow-up post with friends’ routines.

Morning Routine App: Morning Rituals

Lights -> best way to speed up wake up

Weigh -> I weigh myself with a FitBit Aria scale which sends weight and body fat % to my FitBit account. I don’t worry about the day to day. I look at the trends.

Water -> we lose a lot of H2O while asleep, great thing to replace in the morning

Make Bed -> surely you’ve seen this:

#1 lesson of basic Navy SEAL Training: “If you make your bed every morning, you will have accomplished the first task of the day.” – Admiral William H. McRaven, University of Texas at Austin 2014 Commencement Address

Morning Routine App: Morning Rituals

breathe -> aka meditate aka sit still and listen without thinking

read -> a real paper book

Side bar: One of the common bits of “How to Be a Good Mormon” wisdom that, IMHO, gets tossed around rather cavalierly is “just read your scriptures for 15 minutes a day.” As a full-time missionary I relished in a full hour of personal study time each day and another full hour with my assigned companion. And that’s how every day went. I also had no idea what else I would do in the mornings to be productive, and it was the first time in life I wasn’t a full-time student. So for both those reasons, I loved having the study time as much as an approved diversion as it was independently fulfilling.

Outside of being a full-time missionary (and up until Jan 2016), I can’t say I made a habit of reading 15 minutes of anything on a daily basis. Perhaps through long sections of high school and college I did read 15 minutes or more every day — but that would have been assigned reading. Reading by assignment and reading by choice … two different experiences and outcomes.

Well, I’m now several weeks into reading just 10 minutes a day of what I want and simply because I want to. And … I’ve discovered … 10 minutes is plenty of time to cover a lot of meaningful ground. I think I discounted the advice to read 15 min daily because people said it like it was something everyone “should” do. But I never heard the advice by someone using first-person pronouns and present-tense verbs (see Clayton Christensen’s 2002 piece on this, just below “Constants and Variables”), and hence, I wasn’t believably touched or inspired by this suggestion.

Well, I am reading 10 minutes a day and it’s fantastic. It’s fantastic on the level of daily accomplishment, like making my bed; it’s fantastic on the level of seeing myself work through books when normally finishing a book had been a rarer occurrence; it’s fantastic on the level of starting my day by thinking about what I want to think about — typically something enriching — vs. staring with what my inbox wants me to think about.

Currently reading The Articles of Faith and other works.

10 ideas -> a la James Altucher and his Ultimate Guide for Becoming An Idea Machine

reddit -> I jump on to support people with questions on r/triathlon and r/running and learn from the other experienced people there

Morning Routine App: Morning Rituals

fig4 + lunge + pigeon -> stretches for my hips … I run a lot, this helps

crunch-push-plank -> core strength … I run a lot, this helps

workout -> 59 minutes is the max time allowable on the app right now … I do whatever my workout calendar calls for and either pause, exit, or advance this morning routine app to adjust accordingly

fuel -> post-workout: mix of carbs + protein is essential to solid recovery

Morning Routine App: Morning Rituals

goodies -> fish oil, safflower oil, vitamin D, digestive matrix; sometimes magnesium, glutamine and vitamin B12

shower + dress -> final stage to get ready for the day

stop -> is where the morning routine ends. I stop the timer, exit the app, and come back to that spot when it’s time for my night routine.

PM Routine: Screenshots from my Morning Routine App

Morning Routine App: Morning Rituals

stop -> I resume here at night time and use that minute to close up whatever I am doing

change -> a strong action and change of physical state to signal to my mind that the day’s work is done and I’m now headed for bed

“fish” “oil” + “night” “pill” -> a little healthy fat (fish oil, an omega-3) before bed is a good way for me to keep general inflammation down and support proper brain function. I take melatonin only if I’m feeling super alert and/or in a sub-optimal sleep environment.

Morning Routine App: Morning Rituals

brush -> duh

floss 1 tooth -> as Ramit Sethi says (on page 6), tell yourself to floss just one tooth and you’ll end up flossing them all

3 actions+attr -> I reflect on my day and write down 3 actions I am pleased I took that day and the attribute that I have that matches that action

read (part 2) -> while I listen to lots of books during the day, while driving, and so on, this time is reading a paper book. What I’m currently reading.

There are lots of options for your morning routine app and the routine you choose.

Good luck!

P.S. Find any of that helpful or inspiring? I’d like to know. Leave a comment or otherwise holler at me.

By |2021-01-15T15:37:23-07:00April 5th, 2016|General Life|2 Comments