How to Make Stuff Happen

Everyone’s got dreams: things that have never been done or that are bigger than what can be done alone. A few notes to make stuff happen:

[1] Be up to something.

Be up to this thing until you have momentum. Momentum is the flywheel of force that makes it easier as time goes on for you to continue contributing to this thing you are up to. Momentum consists of habit and ritual you’ve created which draw you back into taking actions for the same thing. Progress is an evidence of momentum. Being up to something means you have something at stake. You are living for something.

Make Stuff Happen - start by pounding the rock
How to Make Stuff Happen: start by pounding the rock for your own cathedral

[2] Test for traction.

Once you have momentum, share what you are up to with another human being. Traction is momentum that attracts. When people are really up to something, it’s attractive. People will ask questions, dive in, ask for more, make offers in the presence of what’s attractive. If they want more of it, you’ve got traction.

[3] Invite.

Invitations without a background of people getting what you are up to leaves them unable to answer for themselves … “what’s in it for them to be asking me?” People are suspicious. Aren’t you? Invitations made in advance of experiencing momentum, with an absence of attraction, fall flat. People have their own stuff they are up to. Why would they create lifeless busy work for themselves? After people witness you being up to something and experiencing the momentum of it, only then does an invitation to participate stand of shot of landing.

[4] Stay the course.

Regardless of response to invitations, keep going. Making things happen requires not being messed with by responses.

Make Stuff Happen - stay the course
Stay the course.

Other considerations to make stuff happen:

Why invite someone to do something you aren’t up to? If you won’t do it, if you aren’t doing it … why would they?

Often a prerequisite to [2] is Make a connection. Connect with another human being so they can paint a picture of what’s going on in their world; something to which you can relate. Give them a chance to say what they are up to. You may find they are up to nothing. Start with a no-stake, no-demand, no-request contact. When they experience that you are willing to look into their world, they then may be willing to hear you offer something from yours.

By |2021-12-27T13:27:49-07:00October 17th, 2021|Faith, General Life, Marketing|0 Comments

In the news: “How A Utah Man Became A Triathlete By Changing His Morning Routines” – KSL TV Feature

Change your routines. Change your life.

Pleased that Aley Davis and the KSL (NBC) TV team asked me to share how routines helped me turn around my life and remain a core part of my success today. (If the video doesn’t show below, click here.)

Wanna try a tri? Come train with Balanced Art Multisport’s #bamtrifam and you’ll fall in love with training in a whole new way.

Or come to an Intermountain Tri clinic for a safe, welcoming space to learn basic skills in swimming, biking, running and triathlon.

Or if you’re not in the Utah/SLC region, check out www.mytimetotri.com (a project by USA Triathlon and IRONMAN) for tips and resources to give swimming, cycling, running and triathlon a go.

And you’re always welcome to ask me for ideas. I love when people reach out with questions about shoes, gear, training on heart rate, nutrition, what races to do, how to run faster …

Our bodies are incredible machines and a big part of my life is mastering mine and helping people celebrate theirs.

Notes:

  • In Jan 2018, I co-founded Intermountain Tri and now serve as the president — join with just your email. Come just to swim, bike or run … or all three in triathlon.
  • When I talk about consistently being up until 3a and having no habits … I’m talking about 18 months into having started my marketing business (launched Aug 2012; 2013 was ROUGH and I kept sliding right into Apr 2014). With no boss to report to, no office to show up to, and so on, there was no fixed activity pushing against the demands of my time. So everything got very loose. I lost sense of the day of the week. Weekends were indistinguishable, as was afternoon from morning and “too late” from “time to go to bed.” And my lack of strength with managing my own time became evident. Just as I crammed assignments and studying in school, I tried to cram client work. Hence the late nights. So many days, I would give myself a huge pep talk that “I’m waking up at 6a tomorrow to reset the cycle!” And then I would surely sleep until noon or 1p. And the cycle continued. For months. Until I did these three things to hijack the death spiral:
    • Signed up for Ironman Maryland. I wanted to have a good experience and knew I had to train to succeed. I couldn’t just show up and wing it. It was too big a stress to waltz in.
    • Asked someone who was already really good at getting up in the morning and going to bed on time for help. Many thanks to Erica Wiley for her gentle and supportive texts as I got sleep on track, starting with shutting down and going to bed at a consistent time.
    • Committed to a training plan. I made half progress here with a half-marathon training plan I found and then peppering in runs and rides. But then I hired coach Alan Gulledge who really got me in gear.
Triathlon routines supported by group classes early in the morning
530a M/W all winter long at BAM’s tri training studio in Sandy
  • The cycling class I teach is the BAM Power Program.
    • The workouts are written by sports medicine doctor and pro-cycling coach, Dr. Max Testa, of Park City.
    • Anyone who rides any kind of bike for any purpose at any level of competition/interest/competitiveness can benefit from the classes because they start with an assessment of your present fitness and then are structured around helping you progress from there.
    • It’s very different from a traditional gym/studio “spin” class, which is structured to burn calories. And it’s not like riding on Zwift or Trainer Road because you don’t waste effort “racing” people. Yes, we’re all in the same room (you can join online too!), but each person is in their individual zone, and there’s no leaderboard. It’s just a cool crew of people working hard together and supporting each other.
    • Dr. Testa adjusts the classes each year based on his research and the real outputs of all his riders.
    • Bottom line: it’s the most effective method possible for gaining fitness on the bike that makes you stronger and more efficient.
  • The doc they interviewed is absolutely correct about momentum is your ally with routines.
    • The momentum also comes, as he says, from “feeling much better than you did before.” Once you experience the state change, you know you can get it and will work to get it again.
    • If your baseline is zero, just start moving. A gain of 1 is a gain from zero! Once you baseline is 1, then a gain to 2 is still a gain . . . and on and on, until you perform the routine 5-7 days a week no problem.
  • At USA Triathlon Age Group Nationals in Aug 2018, I finished 20th in the Olympic-distance race and 10th in the sprint. End of summer 2019, I will wear the red, white and blue on Team USA at the ITU Age Group World Championship in Lausanne, Swizterland.

Watch (2:04) and read the whole KSL story here:

KSLtv also did stories on BAM Coach Suz Martin and BAM Coach Bill Fowler and his family.

By |2021-01-15T16:40:55-07:00April 19th, 2019|General Life, Triathlon|0 Comments

Best Morning Routines: How 5 Friends Start Their Days

Is the routine I posted with screenshots of my morning routine app the “Best Morning Routine”?

After my post on my AM/PM routines, bunches of people messaged me:

“I got that morning routine app! I’m doing this!!”

Enthused, I said to myself, “Self! Why not see what they come up with? Maybe their routines will be helpfully ingenious.”

I asked a few friends if they’d be willing to have theirs published in a follow-up post.

They said yes … and here we are.

Their routines don’t disappoint.

Thanks, friends!

(Scroll down to see the best morning routine each of the five have made so far.)

P.S. That post also got the attention of producers at an internet radio station. They invited me in for an interview, and you can now listen the episode online: Start Your Day Strong (12:31).

Back to the question … is my routine the best morning routine? Maybe it is for me, but it’s probably not the best morning routine for you.

The best morning routine is what helps you have your best day, by covering what matters most to you, and that is a set of things you love doing, and that you believe in because you’ve tweaked and tested it yourself.

And now I’m pleased to present …

Routines From Five Super Rad People

hailing from both coasts, the midwest and the mountain west:

Mollie, Nate, Madi, JP and Danny

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Mollie

AM: 46 min // PM: 24 min

New York City
Best Morning Routine - Mollie and Blake
Mollie with her mad genius man and business partner, Blake.
Best Morning Routine - Mollie AM

Pretty simple. Pretty fast.

body = fluids, nutrients and cleaning

mind = meditation

spirit = gratitude

space = bed

What part do I like best?!

She does all that in AIRPLANE mode. NO disruptions! Genius, Mollie. Genius.

Here’s Mollie:

This concept of a morning routine has been evolving for me and has especially shifted now that I’ve taken up 3 new habits:

  1. Vedic meditation
  2. tea (instead of coffee), and
  3. a gratitude list in the AM rather than the PM.

With the Morning Rituals app, I like that it’s dynamic and I was able to update my routine to account for these new habits. And at the exact same time, I’m intent on tweaking until I get to a routine that works effortlessly; one that I know cold that I can do on autopilot.

I’m clear that this level of attention (like the level that this app provides) is the thing that will get me there!

@ Mollie — I’m sure it will!

BONUS: Mollie also shared her evening routine … which ends with putting her phone in Airplane mode (no disruptions while sleeping!). Have a look:

Mollie PM

Thanks again, Mollie!

Mollie runs Lecture Loft, The Nonverbal Group and Beyond Tells out of a sweet loft in the heart of Chelsea in New York City. I’ve hosted consulting workshops and attended parties there. If you need a space for 1-50ish people … or you could use development in your nonverbal communication and poker game … have a look at what she and Blake do.


Nate

AM: 2 hrs 37 min // PM: none

Salt Lake City, Utah
Best Morning Routine - Nate
Nate has interviewed 100+ couples and love experts around the country.
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Best Morning Routine - Nate 2

@ Nate — you da man! But seriously tho, that’s a long poop session … good grief.

Here’s Nate:

As I’ve developed a morning routine, I’ve noticed how much more energy and clarity I have during my day.

  • I wake up every morning and the first thing I do (after going to the bathroom) is exercise. I’m the kind of guy who will make ANY excuse not to work out … so I’ve started sleeping in my workout clothes so I have a total of 0 excuses.
  • After going for a run or doing my morning yoga …
  • I eat some food …
  • Do some breathing …
  • And then I allow myself to write without any constraints in my journal. It’s basically a word-vomit session. I just write whatever I’m thinking and feeling at the moment.
  • Then I give commentary on my thoughts and feelings. There are no rules during this writing session. Nothing is bad, nothing is good … it’s just clearing the clutter.
  • Then I do some reading or make myself some lunch (depending on how I’m doing on time) …
  • And take some time to write something more thoughtful.

I’m not perfect with this routine.

It’s still in development.

And during the days that I follow it, I feel like I am living my life instead of letting my life live me.

Nate is the creator of The Loveumentary, a podcast about healthy, long-lasting and wildly loving relationships, and co-founder of Unbox Love, a monthly date-in-a-box service for couples. His TEDx talk: Fight naked! And other epic love strategies (8:19), brought the house down in September 2015. Nate regularly speaks and hosts seminars to help singles and couples learn and improve the skills that build great relationships. And P.S., if you use Workfront to manage projects, jump into the Workfront Customer Success Portal where Nate is your front-line man.


Madi

AM: no app or timer, she just does // PM: none

Salt Lake City, UT
Best Morning Routine - Madi
Madi took her church’s ladies’ bball team to the city championship.

Madi doesn’t use an app. She’s been doing her thang for years and has her routine down.

That’s especially why I asked Madi to share her routine — to show you can use an app but you don’t need one to have a great morning.

Here’s Madi:

I love morning time. I love that it is a refreshing new start every 24 hours.

I wake up between 6:30-7:00 am most mornings. I love how quiet, cleansed, and still my soul feels.

I used to look at social media to help me wake up but I did away with that because it was a waste of time and never added to my morning experience in a good way.

  • I always try to start my day with a prayer. I think about the things I’m grateful for and I think about the things I need to accomplish for the day.
  • Then I hop to my feet and make my bed. I love when things are clean and in place, so I then tidy the rest of my room.
  • I always listen to my scriptures or a talk. Those tend to set the mood for the day. They help me feel happy and hopeful.
  • I love food so I always eat a yummy breakfast. Usually, it’s an egg, toast, and berries or a yogurt, toast, and berries. Food is healing, nourishing, and tastes great.
  • If I’m lucky I get a work out in. I love playing basketball; all that running reduces stress, and I get to be with some of my favorite friends.

All of these things help me have a powerful start to my day.

I feel endowed with a power that is motivating, faithful and happy.  

BOOM.

I love how Madi loves her mornings … didn’t you feel it? She’s smiling. And content. And cheerful. And pleasant. And simple about all this. It’s lovely.

ALSO, I can see that Madi is super clear on why she does each thing she does.

I’m positive that clarity-in-why counts.

I aspire to do my mornings as gracefully as Madi does.

Until then … I’ll lean on the app and it’s OK if you do too.

@ Madi — you’re awesome!

Madi loves basketball and works at Intermountain Health Care. Every Monday, she plans a mean-good activity for everyone at her church to attend for personal and social enrichment.


JP

AM: 2 hrs 19 min // PM: the reverse

Las Vegas (but I’m counting him for the midwest … Cincinnati hometown homeboys what?!)
Best Morning Routine - JP
JP blogs about the LA Kings, travel and Meal Prep Sundays.

JP and I go way back to Sycamore High School, specifically the SHS Marching Band where he was drum major and I was the drumline captain. Good times.

For years, JP’s been inspired by Ben Franklin’s daily outline:

Best Morning Routine - Ben Franklin

Check it out … a full three hour block before starting work!

After my post, JP kicked it up a notch using the app to add a little formality and structure to his routine, a boon considering his travel + startup founder schedule introduces loads of variability into his life.

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I like that he has two reading blocks.

The WSJ gives him access info that stirs and nurtures his business brain.

The second reading block is open to nurture non-business aspects of his brain.

Here’s JP:

It’s been a challenge to maintain any sort of routine given my work starting an airline.

I definitely see the merits and the importance of maintaining any sort of order to help balance out the chaos of entrepreneurship. A good friend from high school, Nat Harward, introduced me to the Morning Routine app, a straightforward tool for timing and managing specific tasks.

My background: I always maintained some sort of informal routine having been inspired by Ben Franklin’s daily outline (see above). It makes sense to maximize production given the limited amount of daylight that was afforded during colonial era. Basically, my routine consisted of waking up, a few light chores, breakfast, fitness and business throughout the day.

While I prided myself in, at least, making a schedule, more often than not leisure crept into my day, which would significantly mitigate productivity.

When I initially deployed the app into my schedule, it was simply to keep track and manage my morning routine. Having been inspired by Nat to read, I built that in along with Yoga. I’m a huge proponent of Yoga since I’m not 18 anymore and my fitness needs have changed the older I get.

So far my routine consists of:

  • Up – Get out of bed, recognize that it’s a new day
  • WSJ – Read the latest articles
  • Read – Any non-business related reading. Currently book written by a local Vegas pastor
  • Make Bed – Still fine tuning this time depending on how stubborn my pup is
  • Yoga – It says 20 minutes but some of the yoga videos I watch on YouTube last up to 30 minutes. This one varies but at least I have it set in the schedule.
  • Active – This could mean walking the dog or going for a run, the time may vary but, again, it’s locked into the schedule.

My night routine is the reverse of this.

Think of it as falling back down into my bed.

The biggest takeaway, for me, is how vital it is to have any sort of routine or set schedule.

More often than not, I had video games or other leisure activities creep into my daily schedule mitigating my overall productivity. In the few stable days I’ve been able to incorporate a routine, I’ve been astronomically productive to the point where I thoroughly enjoyed my downtime in the afternoon leading to the start of my evening routine.

I have plenty of friends who are envious of my zen-like attitude, but it’s not without careful planning. Yoga and being active are definitely main staples of my routine, so at the very least those are non-negotiable.

@ JP — reversing the AM routine as the PM routine is brilliant … falling back down into bed. Great way to think about it! Thanks man, eager to follow the Airline 4.0 story.

JP loves playing ice hockey and rooting for the Bengals and the LA Kings. He faithfully preps a week’s worth of meals on Sundays … except when he’s traveling to build Airline 4.0. Follow his meals and startup progress on Insta.


Danny

AM: 2 hrs // PM: none

Los Angeles
Best Morning Routine - Danny
Long story … but Danny, his lovely wife and I flew a small plane over LA with a former Romanian street car racer as our pilot (that’s the long part of the story). Said he, “99% of airspace is unregulated, so when I got tired of them chasing me in the streets, I took to the air.” True story.

I can’t say enough about Mr. ‘DannyRas.’ I haven’t even read through his routine yet, which I’m about 30 seconds away from pasting into this blog, and I’m giddy to see what he wrote about it.

First up, Danny’s preface:

Ever since I started listening to The Tim Ferriss Show podcast [Nat here, also a fan! I’m not a regular listener but I listen when a title catches my eye … as this one did: The Man Who Studied 1,000 Deaths to Learn How to Live], I’ve been obsessed with morning routines. I’ve tried probably around 20-30 different iterations before finally settling on what I’ve been using of late [[Good on ya! SEE … experiment experiment experiment 🙂 ]]. It’s simple and not particularly flashy, but seeing as I’m really not a morning person at all, I tend to give myself a break.

Danny’s simple, good-enough-for-a-non-morning-person Morning Routine:

Best Morning Routine - Danny 1

Simple indeed.

Here’s Danny (buckle up!):

As a natural night owl, mornings and I have never gotten along.

Mornings don’t like me and I don’t like mornings. If mornings were an animal, they’d be those noisy crickets that sound like they’re right by your ear but you can’t seem to locate the source.

I am not a happy person in the mornings.

In fact, I can be downright angry. Those who know me understand that this is counter to my very nature and disposition at all other hours of the day. I’m a happy guy … after 10AM. Before 10AM, it’s best to stay away. My brain is pretty much useless for a good hour after waking up. Meanwhile, my body is all about retaining its inertia in it’s perfect cocoon. My mind, meanwhile, performs one and only one function at that hour: silence the snooze and justify hitting it just one more time. When it comes to snooze justifications, my brain is straight-up Einsteinian.This is a daily struggle.

As a result, I’ve built my morning routine around three simple concepts:

  1. Activating my body,
  2. Activating my brain and
  3. Feeding my soul.

That’s it.Activate Body: get out of bed, move my body, shower/shave/get dressed, eat breakfast. Activate Brain: listen to podcast or audiobook, eat breakfast, Feed Soul: listen to inspiring audio First thing I do is I physically pry myself away from my covers and into the other room where I, in my catatonic state, attempt to clothe myself in the workout clothes I laid out the night before. This occurs with varying degrees of success. I grab my phone and headphones and turn on some form of inspiring audio, typically a podcast (like Tim Ferriss), an audiobook (currently: The War of Art, by Steven Pressfield [[Nat here … I HIGHLY recommend this book.]) or an inspiring talk (e.g. anything from #ldsconf) and walk out the door. The passive audio consumption begins the brain activation and soul feeding processes.

During my “workout,” I don’t care if I run in record time or leisurely stroll around the neighborhood.

My only goal is to move my body. That’s it. No judgment, no personal records. If I move my body, I succeed. When I get back, I go through the usual shower/shave/get dressed process. Nothing fancy here. If I take a longer shower, it just means I have to get dressed quicker. This is all a continuation of my “activate body” process, but it also helps me take the rest of my morning activities a little more seriously. This is especially important on the days that I’m working from home. Breakfast is either lovingly prepared by my wife or rushingly thrown together by yours truly. The inputs vary with one exception and that is fresh squeezed OJ. One of the perks of living in pricey Orange County is the abundance of cheap, sweet oranges at the local farmers markets. We go through a lot of oranges …

Once my body is awakened, exercised, bathed, clothed and fed, I’m ready to sit down for my communion session.

This is where I come to really feed my soul. I sit down at my desk, say a prayer and make a concerted effort to commune with my Heavenly Father. I just want to talk to him, and try and listen to what He has to tell me. That’s why during my communion session, I tend to focus on reading scripture. That’s where I get a lot of answers. Of all the activities I participate in during my morning routine, I find that this one provides the best ROI for the rest of the day.

After feeding my soul, I review my To-Dos for the day and it’s game on.

Game on!

I’m glad Danny’s ended up being last in order here because I think he’s set up a great pattern that anyone wanting to make or tweak their personal best morning routine can follow.

What parts of myself need waking up or nurturing in the morning?

Danny IDed for himself: body, brain, soul.

When charting your best morning routine, perhaps that’s the best question to start with … it’s not “what ‘should’ I do in the morning?” or “what does everyone else do in the morning that seems trendy and therefore good to do?”

The key questions are something more like, “As I think about what’s most important in life and what I want to accomplish each day, what parts of myself then do I want to take care of? What aspects of myself further my goals, and of those, which need the most support to establish momentum in the morning?”

@ Danny — You’re a rockstar! Way to take your known weaknesses and craft your best morning routine to lovingly work yourself awake each day. Thanks, brah.

Danny is a marketer and responsible for the growth the trampoline park franchise Big Air. He’s also one of the founding contributors of Normons, a blog about how Mormons are actually super normal. He and his wife, Ashley, are working on a forthcoming podcast about shame, conquering it and healing oneself of the impact. I can’t wait. He’s die hard for the Angels, In-n-Out and Twitter. Catch him at @dannyras.


So…..

What do you think? Who’s got the best morning routine?

If you were inspired or got any new ideas on crafting your best morning routine, I’d love to hear about it.

Leave a comment below.

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To the app developers of Morning Routine (formerly Morning Rituals) … the lovely people of Ubicolor:

I got feedback from people that would be better in your hands than mine. Here’s a punchlist of feature requests that came my way:

  • Two modes: morning routine mode and night routine mode
  • Night routine mode: have an alarm that goes off at a set time to support us in starting the routine on time
  • Option for more than 2 modes or routine “lists” … sometimes the Sa/Su routine is different from M-F

Got more feedback? Send it via the comment form at the bottom of Ubicolor’s Press Kit.

To download the app, do that here ($2, no affiliate status; iOS only).

By |2023-11-09T01:11:51-07:00April 28th, 2016|General Life|2 Comments